validation

in just being in authenticity… i think something i’ve been thinking about is the conscious practice in relaxing and letting what feels natural flow– regardless of validation, regardless of reception. i think many times when we are just living, just being.. we begin to subliminally pick up on what other people’s reactions are. at least for me (but i think in the way we are just programmed to assimilate socially .. to not turn heads or out lie) we subtly pick up on what gets validated and what doesn’t. and i think for me.. the biggest practice in authenticity.. is letting the reception from other people mean less to me. because I think when u peel back the layers, we are programmed and socially told to let go of what is not validated.. and to keep what is. but I think the biggest practice in self love.. in living as u were meant to .. is that act of consciously not abandoning the parts of u that are not validated. its in remaining with little quirks u have or whims or things that people .. maybe don’t necessarily dislike.. but u can tell they are not as praised as other parts. but thats the practice! don’t abandon any part of your truest inner self to please others.

I notice this a lot with myself and just the many stages I go through in life. there are times when life causes us to question, to look inward, to slow down.. and there are other times when we are just blooming! and yk.. thats the flow. that is life. tt’s all of it! so for me.. my practice here is in remaining true to me 🙂 in my truth. in my version of seeing things. in my being. and in remaining unaffected my the noise in 3d (socially) regardless of what it is.

I think all of it is mostly a reminder that the flow of my life is my own.. people will always gravitate to u or praise u when u seemingly are blooming on the surface.. but I think its really just remembering.. look .. the reception or validation I may receive for surface level things (the way I look, or things I have .. whatever it may be) mean little .. as little as the lack of validation u receive when things don’t look so pretty on the surface.

.. if validation is contingent on something so momentary or superficial as a surface level appearance.. (in any form) it doesn’t have weight to it. what matters is the way I live my inner truth and see the world, see my soul in every season of my life. the good and the not so good. know .. nothing real can be threatened.

and I can’t be upset when others seem to gravitate towards me in one stage or another of my life.. but i really think its important in those seasons to remember what is true. what is real. the kind of value that actually exists. and its not something that can be bestowed upon u by someone else. its not in the way u look or what you have or wear… its this ever-present and underlying truth, love, peace that exists within .. (and in my case.. my connection to presence, to the Now.. to the Divine).

anything that can be ‘given’ to u or ‘taken’ on a superficial level.. means truly nothing beside your connection to the Oneness. cherish what is real. cherish what has substance beyond what you see, and instead what you truly feel. cherish what Truth exists and continues to exist throughout all the external 3d versions of u.

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later edit as of June 2026:

rereading and partially editing this later on, i think it’s funny being able to observe my ego self here. I love that i can see what i was trying to grasp at .. our journey in spiritual and conscious awareness is never done of course, but i think i am able to understand better what I was trying to say then, now.

which is.. our ego’s need for validation and the pain pleasure cycle that comes with it.. our ego’s obsession with perception .. all of these things melt more away when we are truly conscious in observing the ego. (again our and my work is never done here since observation of the ego is a ongoing practice) but i think it’s funny how i was grappling here with external perception but didn’t quite get to the heart of the matter which is — our primary reality is within. whatever happens outside of that.. however the chips fall, however others see me or don’t see me.. none of that is of any consequence or concern of mine. the ego is an illusion.. and so feeling stressed or worried or perpetuating ego in any sense (like by trying to hide ourselves to ‘protect’ it) is also hilariously futile because it still yet perpetuates the ego. so where i am now is..

.. i am that i am in the Now. that’s all. everything else is of no concern of mine.